How To Change Your Mood

 

In this video I talk about how you can change your mood.

In case you don't know, I'm a certified High Performance coach. I've been developing my practice as a coach and looking at the nuances of how people can live as their best selves.

Today, I want to talk about a few things you can do to change your mood if you're feeling fed up or just generally down in the dumps. Maybe you feel a lot of negativity in your life? I want to help you move to a place that makes you feel better about your situation.



Your mood and mindset really govern how you enjoy your day. Even though you could be in a tough situation, but your mindset is such that you have a much better experience.

First of all acknowledge that there's a situation or feeling that needs to change.

First, think about the words that you use to describe yourself, or the situation that you're in. Are those words negative words? Are the words that you could use instead that are more empowering? By doing this simple thing you can...

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Recovery, Russell Brand.

I surprised myself by buying this book. I was also taken aback when I saw that I bought the audio book last year, more about that later.

I was scrolling through my Facebook feed, as you do,  and I saw the image of a video that I'd seen before. This time though my audio was set to on; so the first few seconds of it played. They were enough for me to watch the rest of the video.

It was Russell Brand. In my head, I was wondering how could this man who was at the very edges of society now be giving good advice on how to overcome addiction. Without another second passing, I went to Amazon and bought his book.

I was surprised to read Russell talking about his addictions,  family upbringing, and recovery so openly and with such insight. Perhaps as an MSc student of International Politics and Religion at SOAS the guy had matured and grown. Perhaps he just recovered.

I have heard of 12 step programs before but I'd never really studied them.  I also have eaten enough...

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Just What Is Positive Psychology?

This is a really important question and the answer is not as simple as it seems. Before I go into what I believe positive psychology is and how it can contribute to the world of well-being lets look at the technical definition. “Positive Psychology is the scientific study of human flourishing, and an applied approach to optimal functioning. It has also been defined as the study of the strengths and virtues that enable individuals, communities and organisations to thrive” (Gable & Haidt, 2005, Sheldon & King, 2001). What this means in lay terms is that it is the science of flourishing, it is moving us from living an average/normal/comfortable life we move to one that is flourishing. Flourishing is a big word meaning that we are really alive and living in the present. This concept of living in the moment. This one, right now.

There are four levels to human psychology –  psychological disorder (where you need medical interventions), languishing, moderate...

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It's Not As Morbid As It Sounds. Honest!

I want you to write your own obituary. There I said it. Be patient with me and you’ll see why this can create such a significant turning point in your life. Most people have heard of the Nobel Peace Prize, it was set up by Alfred Nobel. What most people do not know about him is that he was the Swedish inventor and engineer who invented dynamite.

One morning when Alfred Nobel was reading the paper he was shocked to read his own obituary. His brother had passed away and the newspaper made a mistake and printed Alfred’s obituary in error.

The obituary read, “The merchant of death is dead”.  It went on - “Dr. Alfred Nobel, who became rich by finding ways to kill more people faster than ever before, died yesterday.”

Alfred never married and did not have any children. He was devastated with what he read and was concerned with how he would be remembered.  On 27 November 1895, Alfred Nobel signed his last will and testament, giving the largest...

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Quick Story - Pain And The Power Of The Mind

In 1998 I was on the way to the gym after work and was involved in a major car accident which left me unable to even peel a potato! I spent six months sitting on the sofa, feeling sorry for myself, eating bad food and watching trash TV. Then one day I woke up and decided that I was not going to accept the situation I was left in. In this blog post, we look at pain and the power of the mind.

When one experiences pain it is really difficult to focus on anything else. If you have ever been in a situation where you've had a papercut you know how you can’t feel anything else in that situation, right?  But when you have an illness that results in regular pain, or you exercise and feel pain for the next few days as your body adjusts what is really going on? If you are in chronic pain (i.e. pain that lasts for more than six months) it could be that there are triggers which make it worse – anger, thinking your situation is worse than it really is, not having enough sleep,...

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Hung Up On Perfectionism? It's Easy If You Do It Smart

As a long term perfectionist in this post I am going to look at the different types of perfectionism and what you can do to respond to them.

I don’t know if you have ever thought about this but there are different types of perfectionism.

One is neurotic perfectionism, which is the extreme form: a neurotic perfectionist allows their achievements to define them while setting unrealistically high standards for themselves at the expense of everyone and everything else in their life.

The other is healthy perfectionism. This person is positively motivated to succeed but prioritises and does not let failures and setbacks define them and their ability.

For me this means that whilst many people see perfectionism as something that is incorrect, I see it as something to be managed and something to aspire towards. I know that it is not possible to be perfect, flawless, etc… but it is possible to strive to be the best that you can be, right?

Healthy perfectionism is achieved by:...

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And To My Hero...

Matthew McConaughey is a Hollywood actor who in my opinion delivered one of the best Oscar acceptance speeches ever. Read it out loud if you can. The words are powerful –

“And to my hero. That’s who I chase. Now when I was 15 years old, I had a very important person in my life come to me and say “who’s your hero?” And I said, “I don’t know, I gotta think about that. Give me a couple of weeks.” I come back two weeks later, this person comes up and says “who’s your hero?” I said, “I thought about it. You know who it is? It’s me in 10 years.” So I turned 25. Ten years later, that same person comes to me and says, “So, are you a hero?” And I was like, “not even close. No, no, no.” She said, “Why?” I said, “Because my hero’s me at 35.” So you see every day, every week, every month and every year of my life, my hero’s always 10 years away....

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