How Can I Handle Fear?

 

Yesterday, someone asked me to talk about how to handle fear. I think this is a really important subject so thought I would share my thoughts on this.

Fear manifests itself in so many different ways. Sometimes it's useful - it can help keep us alive after all.

What doesn't help you is fear that stop you from moving forward on a project or stops you making progress towards your dreams.

You can have fear of the process that you need to do in order to achieve a project. So you stay stuck.

Then there is what I call 'comfort pain'. This is to do with settling with who you are and you don't want to address the fear you might have of rocking the boat to make a change that you need to make. So you put up with the pain.

Another type that I come across is the 'pain of results'. When you experience change or transformation in your life you can't expect everything around you to stay the same. This can also include changes that you don't choose to make such as retirement, or job loss or the...

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Are You Waiting For Destiny To Happen, Or Are You Working Towards It?

 

Are you waiting for destiny to happen, or are you working towards it? This question came around because I noticed in the comments and feedback that I've been receiving that things weren't or were happening in people's lives such as getting married or finding work, and that it's destiny and if it happens, it happens.

Predestination doesn't mean however that we should sit back and do nothing, and just accept that things will happen for us. We need to be proactive towards working for our goals.

If we sit back waiting for our goals to appear then we'll have a long wait. If you are a proactive person and doing the work you need to do to move yourself forward, you're much more likely to achieve your dreams instead of waiting for it to just drop in your lap. If your waiting for the 'right time' it's more likely to appear sooner if your taking steps towards it.

This applies to any goal in your life whether it's marriage or work or study. You whole life can be transformed, but you...

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How To Make Time For Yourself

 

 

A common question I get is "How can I make time for myself". It seems that despite all of our time-saving devices we still don't seem to have enough time.

I want you to live a purposeful life. Living on intention. Once you are living that kind of life it means that you are then in a position to help others. Even be a role model to them. However, you need to be on your 'A game' in order to be able to do that effectively.

So how can we make time for ourselves? Here's a few suggestions (more detail in the video):

1. Learn to delegate. There are definitely things in your life that are not really your responsibility. Decide what they are and delegate them to someone else. Whether it's to your husband, wife, kids, colleagues. Whoever it is.

2. Learn to say "No". It's a challenge as we want to be helpful, but there are times when it's not up to us. We say 'Yes' to so many other people's dreams, our own dreams suffer.

3. Don't allow your email or social media to run your...

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Are You Letting Procrastination Win?

 

Procrastination - the action of delaying or postponing something.

Why are we letting procrastination win? We only get one life and we spend so much time talking ourselves out of doing things. We need to embrace life and get past procrastination. 

So, how can we get around it? First of all, be aware that you are procrastinating in the first place. You need to be able to recognize when you're procrastinating if you're going to beat it.


How can we cure it or deal with it? I discuss it in more detail in the video but here's a few points:

1. Write down what you want to achieve with a strict deadline. This links back to what i was talking about yesterday. For larger goals, break them down into smaller steps.

2. Believe that you can achieve your goals. I'm a firm believer in visualization - try it, it works.

3. Use accountability to help you take the steps you need to get them done. Sometimes, simply having the infrastructure in place isn't enough if you...

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Do You Have A Dream Or Plan?

 

Many people want to achieve things in their life, but what is the point in having a dream about achieving something, if you don't have a plan to get there.

I've been working on my health and fitness for a while but recently I took my foot of the pedal a bit. When I look at my journal record, it's blank! I haven't planned anything so it's no wonder that I've let things go a bit.

You may have a dream but you need a plan if you want to achieve that dream.

If you think about where you are now, you must have had some kind of a plan that led you here. It's the same when it comes to planning for any dream that you want to achieve.

Your dream could be going to university, getting a job, getting married, fixing your health. Any number of things. You shouldn't just fumble through life hoping that things work out. If you're serious about achieving your dreams then your MUST plan for them.

Everyone I've ever coached or worked with, who has gotten success with their crazy aspirations,...

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What fuels unexpected kindness?

 

 

Whilst working out of the house, in Central London, I'm still pleasantly surprised about how much kindness you see from the people there. Don't get me wrong, the rude people are still there too, but seeing kindness in action is always inspiring.

I was sitting in a coffee shop for the bulk of the day, working away. I like to work outside quite often and change locations through the day but today I was kind of tied to one place which gave me the chance to observe the people in the store as they went about their day.



One thing I noticed in particular, was a problem that I'm sure may of us who work outside face - what to do when you need to go to the restroom and you don't want to pack everything away - books, laptop, phone, etc. You also don't want to lose that prime seat that you managed to snag!

Small acts of kindness are a great benefit to us in so many ways. I really recommend putting 'being kind' as one of your top daily agenda items.

SUMMARY

- Make being kind one of...

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My Daughter Hated Physics Until Today....

 

 

My daughter is home schooled. This is because we travelled for a few years, living in a number of countries such as Morocco, Egypt, Malaysia and the US amongst others. She studies English, Maths, History, Geography, Physics, Chemistry, Biology and Sociology. This went pretty well but she has always disliked physics as a subject.

Something interesting happened today however. She started doing some extra tuition, on top of her normal studies, at a college. As a result she has got a new tutor who she said was really enthusiastic about physics. This has generated a deeper interest now in this subject for her. He engaged her with the topic and won her over.

It made me think about how we all struggle from time to time wtih certain topics but why it is important to persevere, especially when we know something is good for us.

SUMMARY

- How to change our approach? You can shift our focus or consider who is guiding you.
- The right teacher can cause a huge shift in your attitude....

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Coaching Lessons From A 5 Year Old

In this video I share a few lessons I learned from some kids who came round to the house about a week ago.

I'm that Auntie that the nieces and nephews are a little bit scared of (because I'm the one who will tell them off!) but, they know that I also give them interesting things to do and think about.

On this day, I happened to give some advice to 7 kids, all aged under 8. In essence, I got them to make some checklists. I didn't make them. They did. They had ownership of the process. So they made the checklists, they monitored their progress on a daily basis and made a self-assessment.

Anyway, today, their parents sent me the results of how they've been getting on and I learned some valuable lessons which I share with you in the video . They got a lot done! This is how results happen!

SUMMARY:

It's amazing what you can learn and from who.

The benefits you can get from the simple checklist.

Give children ownership of their own projects.

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Clarity

Can you imagine ever getting on a bus, train, or plane and not know where you are going? I am a firm believer in the idea that you need to know where you are going or its just a journey to nowhere. If you have ever been in a situation where you are wondering what you are doing today (or in life in general), chances are it's because you don't know your destination, you don't have clarity. 

To me, life is a journey that we take from A to B. A being when we are born, and B being when we depart from this planet. Everything that happens in between is the journey. There are a number of aspects of your physical, psychological, emotional, and spiritual being that require clarity in order for you to have a more satisfying journey. 

Clarity is being clear, being able to communicate yourself effectively and share what you desire with others. When you have clarity people understand you with ease. 

I believe that clarity is everything in life. Personally speaking there have been...

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Is Discipline Bad For You?

You are on a diet and you are keeping yourself in check, watching what you eat and how much you exercise. You might have a Fitbit helping you monitor your discipline. But I firmly believe that discipline is wrong for us and here is why.Look, a little bit of discipline is always good and helps you to get where you want to go, but having to be disciplined all the time reminds me of having to fight yourself and what you really want to do. This is the main reason why when we go on a diet or start a new regimen we achieve a lot at the beginning but then (the majority of people) tend to fail. The difference between failure and success in these cases is all to do with discipline.

I know that you know the hadith of small consistent actions. It's one that inspires me every single day. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately and know that your deeds will not make you enter Paradise, and that the most beloved deed to Allah is the most regular and constant...

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